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January 10, 2008
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Have you ever asked your mother, how to impress certain girl, or girls in general. She told you to be sweet, nice and thoughtful. She told you, that you should do anything, that a girl asks you for. And you’ve tried that and it never worked. It even backfired - you always get caught in the friend zone or never even get ever there.
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And not only your mom. If you ask a girl, what kind of guys she likes, most of the time she’ll answer something like that:
I want someone tall, blond and handsome, who threats me nice and will do anything about me.
Being nice … doing all kind of things that don’t feel right. Giving compliments, making gifts, doing favors and providing resource, pretending to always feel good, even if you don’t.
This is how society teach us to be. These are set of rules, created by today’s environment. We are in a way programmed to do so.
Not a lot of people, really understand how attraction is sparked and works. Not even your mother. That way, even if she wants to give you a good guideline, she can’t. No matter how much she loved you and wanted the best for you. As David DeAngelo said once:
Mom may have gotten the tingles when she saw Clint
Eastwood shooting everyone… and Neil Diamond
running around with his sneer, hairy chest and
that pickle in his jeans… (and that reminds
me… EWWWWWW… your mom is gross, dude).
I’ve read lots of books and seen a lot of material about evolution, social psychology and human behavior now. At that point I can say I see a lot of the things going on around me in a very different way. The interesting thing here is that people don’t like to change their belief. Most people stuck with a belief that is not really true and use it as an excuse for their whole lives.
As first you have to change YOUR beliefs and stop sabotaging your self. Stop limiting yourself from all the stuff you can have in your life. People say that “Seeing is believing”, but the oposite is even more powerful - Believing is seeing, guys. Believing is seeing!
That’s because you brain is constantly looking for proof to your believes. So if you believe, that you suck in dating - you are going to suck in it. If you believe women only care about fame, money and looks … they are going to (they won’t actually, but it’s how your going to see it!).
David DeAngelo became famous with this - “Attraction isn’t a choise”. Understand how true is that.
You can’t talk somebody into FEELING attraction towards you. You can’t! If you try to convince a girl to FEEL it, she won’t. She’ll actually loose attraction. All these - buying dinner, giving gift, being nice to her and etc. is actually you, trying to convince her.
Attraction happens on subconscious level. Learning all the “pick up lines” or “techniques” in the world would not help you. Even if they do, they are not going to make you feel right. Instead work on yourself first. Change your believes about that area of your life.
In the next articles, I am going to explain more about that. Further we’ll talk more about sparking attraction, flirting, vibing and more.
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read comments (12)
January 14th, 2008 at 7:18 pm
Yes, this is true. Girls don’t now what they really want. They want one, but will be attracted from something entirely else. Great article bro. You can explain about some qualities that can attract Girls.
January 24th, 2008 at 8:42 am
interesting photo choice…
January 24th, 2008 at 10:03 am
Yeah,
this is from the movie “A Streetcar Named Desire”.
January 24th, 2008 at 10:29 pm
I know, I was wondering if you’d seen it. Stanley’s behavior is something I would strongly discourage.
January 26th, 2008 at 11:00 pm
Yeah, I’ve seen it. I would discourage that, too, as he is way too extreme! Honestly, I believe that anyone, who commits raping or such, should carry out the full extent of punishment possible.
Anyway, you’ve seen the movie and you know, what reaction women (in the movie and in the theaters back then) was I guess.
February 2nd, 2008 at 3:27 pm
Wow dude…you even copied the expressions Deangelo uses?
February 2nd, 2008 at 3:57 pm
Well, I’ve learned from him. And I am not going to hide it.
And anyway, I clearly put it in a quote and gave him credit for that!
February 9th, 2008 at 7:23 am
I love David D man! My brother bought his book and i ended up being the one that read it.
I was reading it and the more i did, then the more it made sense to me why i was attracted to certain guys and what not. I actually learnt stuff about myself!!!
But what he has to say about atrraction being totally illogical and highly irrational is totally true. A lot of girls dont even know why they are attacrted to certain guys.
They try to justify it with all these reasons, but at the end of the day she has the hots for him and there is nothing that she can do about it. So once you learn how to do that you can totally use that against her!
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February 9th, 2008 at 8:18 pm
That is why I think it is useless to ask a girl, about “her type” of guys.
Because what a woman thinks she likes, it’s not always what she is attracted to and what she responds to!
Im2ortal
February 10th, 2008 at 9:30 am
Usually when a chick says to a guy, you are not my type .. It’s just a way to let a guy down gently.
Like you said, chicks say that have types and most of us are actually deluded enough to think that we stick by these rules
But I guarantee you there are chicks out there who are dating guys, who are like nothing that had imagined or wanted them to be, simply because they are under the spell of attraction
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February 10th, 2008 at 11:46 am
Hehe…
The elusive power of attraction. It didn’t make sense to me naturally. Actually I was so deluded, that I thought you can talk a woman into feeling attraction towards you.
Gratefully, these days are over. Now I am trying to help other guys understand that … because I believe this is the natural way of personal growth and evolution!
Im2ortal
February 11th, 2008 at 7:51 am
Typical right? I think all guys at one point in time think that somehow they can talk a chick into liking them.
N you think it would work right? Coz you know im sure some guys would have figured out that chicks, like talking and therefore you could talk us into anything.
I was just watched 40 yr old virgin yesterday night. N one of the guys who was teaching Andy how to pick up a chick .. by never giving her an answer and always answering a question with a question.
The funny thing is, that it actually does work. Most of the guys that we are highly attracted to, we know very little about.
Just like guys like the challenge .. us girls love the Mystery
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